Letting Go Loudly
As you may have noticed by the date of our last blog post, I've been battling a bout of writer's block. I've had plenty of ideas for posts and even got halfway through a few drafts, but nothing has felt quite right to publish. Since I started blogging years ago, I promised myself I would be patient for the right inspiration to come rather than forcing it. Although I felt some doubts trickle in as the days passed by, I'm glad I waited and stuck to my rule.
Hollie and I spend a lot of time talking about our own imperfections and calling women to share their authentic stories. A recent post by one of my favorite mom bloggers couldn't have come at a more perfect time. It reminded me that we not only need to continue having real, raw conversations but that we need to create more opportunities for women to celebrate letting go. There are more women than ever calling for others to lean in while still taking care of themselves and not trying to do it all. But then we open up Facebook and Instagram to see only the happy moments that are curated to create an image. We preach self-care but don't publicly recognize it to the same degree we do stories about achievement. Where do we see women letting go of the dirty dishes in the sink? Letting themselves binge watch Netflix or take a nap on a Sunday afternoon? Not stressing over getting takeout for the second night in a row? Seriously, I want to know because I've done all of those things lately. Please tell me I'm not the only one!
Whenever people say, "I don't know how you do it," I usually don't respond with "you should watch me nap, it's my secret superpower!" What people don't see are the times when I'm anything but productive. Watching movies with my kids. Not checking email on weekends. Serving macaroni for dinner again because that's easier than cooking something I'd have to force the boys to eat. There are battles I've chosen not to fight which will never be seen the way other accomplishments are celebrated.
What if we #LetGoLoudly and reminded each other that it's ok to rest? That taking time to let go is just as important as making time to be brave and tackle the next challenge? It's not possible to achieve goals with any degree of sustainably without this balance. I'm going to make an intentional effort to share more moments of letting go, not with shame but to loudly recognize the small victories that give us the energy and grace to keep moving toward growth. Next time you give yourself a break, I hope you'll share the moment and remind other women that it's ok to #LetGoLoudly. I look forward to hearing your stories- when I get up from my nap, of course!